So you know how a lot of colleges have a [university name] confessions page, right? For those unfamiliar with it, students can submit confessions of things they’ve done at school or relating to their lives in college anonymously, and it gets published to a facebook page where people can read them and shit.
There was a post by a guy asking for tips on talking to girls. And so of course, there were a ton of responses, either giving useful tips or just joking. Some of those jokes, though, they crossed the line.
“Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?”
and my personal favorite,
“Rape is always an option.”
When I read that, I almost got fucking sick to my stomach. And the worst part? There were TWO FUCKING LIKES underneath that comment.
I mean, you hear about those ignorant people who think rape is okay, but I have never to this day encountered someone who actually thought like that. Especially in my state (WA) which is one of the most liberal states in the US. Not that liberalism or conservatism has anything to do with whether or not people think something as horrific as rape is okay, but as a general rule, when the society you’re in frowns upon harming or restricting the rights of people (women especially), you just don’t talk like that.
So this comment shakes me to the core.
And do you know the worst part?
When I was writing my reply to this comment, I stopped, worried that people might not think I was cool if I called him out on it.
I was worried about sounding like a stuck up bitch.
This guy was completely out of line, but I was afraid to reply because I didn’t want to suffer the backlash and harassment that’s sure to follow. I even considered hacking my brother’s facebook just to post the comment.
Because a woman calling a man out is bitchy, feminist bullshit that everyone has a right to ignore or debase. But a guy doing it? Commands respect.
Bottom line? Rape culture not only exists today, but can be as obvious as it is subtle. This is not okay. This needs to change.
I posted it anyways, because thank god I don’t know this guy, so the chances that he’ll find and hurt or harass me in person are low, but I am anticipating backlash. And I’ll have to deal with it in the morning. And I’ll probably be cast as the castrating bitch of the situation, but fuck it. Fuck him, and fuck those people who thought that him making a joke about rape of all things, was okay.
I guess being over on the east side is waaaay way different than being up in the beautiful pacific northwest. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t desperately want to transfer to western right now. Because this shit disgusts me. Because people over here are racist and rude and prejudiced and cruel and every bad redneck stereotype you can imagine. People are actually like that. Which is a tragedy to me, because I expected more. I expected better out of you, Spokane. You are part of this wonderful place that I love and call my home. Please don’t make me hate you.
Ugh sorry personal shit at the end there.